Today was one of those days. You know the ones I mean.
Recently I got a promotion at work (yes, yay me!). The downside is I’m learning, well, not an entirely new job, but greatly expanding on what I’ve been doing with a lot of new tasks, while at the same time training someone from my old position to do the work I’d been doing. I’m not being helped by the fact that the person I’m training is much, much slower on the uptake than I am, so I end up spending an entire day on a task that should have taken a few hours at best (not bragging on my behalf, I just catch on very quickly in most cases). Compound that frustration with one of the longest low-lows I’ve had in years and boom – disaster is born!
I’m Bipolar Type II Rapid Cycling. Usually my lows last 3-4 days at best, then I sort of crash out, and am more or less even afterwards. Same with my mini-manic phases. I’m riding high for 3-4 days then I come down and literally crash out (as in sleep for at least 12 hours), then I’m good to go. More often than not I am either even or in a depression. I call my manic swings mini-manic because I can usually function pretty well, aside from not sleeping much, if at all. They’re not true “manic” swings like I’ve read others experience, so sometimes I don’t even like using that word. There’s no “worse” way to be Bipolar, neither manic nor depressed is any picnic, but I don’t want to mislabel what I experience.
Over the years I’ve learned some of my warning signs and do my best to take away temptations when I feel myself going manic. And yes, I can feel it. Not that I can describe it, but I know when I’m teetering on a manic episode. Sometimes it’s like that sneeze that won’t show up. My eyes are closed and I’m ready to sneeze…. and nothing. It’s not a great feeling. A portion of my brain has started being manic but the rest of me hasn’t caught up yet. I feel like I’m in limbo, like I’m literally about to fall off the ledge. I hate that feeling. When it gets that way sometimes I will purposely find a way to push myself over the edge because being manic is way better than the limbo thing, trust me.
Right now, though, I’m in this bad very low low. It’s been about 10 days and I can’t get out of this Bipolar spiral. My household chores have been slacking. It took me about 5 days to fully do 3 loads of laundry. I did them, then they sat in the laundry room until my roommate, saint that she is, shoved all my clean stuff in the basket and put it in my room. Then my cat vomited on my bed overnight, so I had to do more laundry and ended up getting all the previously cleaned things put away, bed stuff washed and put back on the bed. I also felt really guilty for not doing some things around the house so I made sure I got the laundry out of the way, dishes put away, and got our garbage out to the curb last night for trash day, and now I feel like much less of a slacker loser because I finally accomplished something.
This afternoon at work I didn’t quite have a panic attack – I didn’t have to run out of the building or anything – but I had a moment where I just couldn’t brain anymore. I had to stop and take a moment, then go ask a coworker to sit with me for a few minutes to make sure I was doing things right. Turns out I was, but I was overloaded from all the work frustrations and the depression swing.
Mainly, this post was for me to purge my brain of some of this crap. I can’t do anything about it, because there’s nothing anyone can do to stop a depression swing. I’ve done what I could – I got out of the house Saturday and Sunday to spend time with friends, be outside, and not just sit in my room thinking about how depressed I am. It helped a bit, but not enough.
I’m isolating. The “I should just die” thoughts are still hovering around me. I have zero patience for stupidity of any type.
Why isn’t there a “snap out of it!” button for Bipolar?
Seriously, dudes, if you are having suicidal thoughts or know someone who is, please call 911, someone you love and trust, go to your local ER, or visit To Write Love On Her Arms. YOU have a purpose and YOU are loved.